There’s a subtle form of power difference when people for whom “supporting Palestine” is a “values discussion” tell me, a person who actually has family in Israel and for whom “intifada now” is a clear call to murder them, that I have the “wrong values” for objecting to that phrase.

Like, for you this is a mantle of “being a good person” you can put on or take off. For me it’s my actual home country and family, and not something I can walk away from.